I love me some alone time. Don’t you? Oh the gloriousness of relaxing at home alone is amazing to me. Can I get an amen from the homebodies in the house? Even though this project celebrates being social, honestly I’m more of an introvert. In fact, I partly created this project to lovingly force me into more social connection.
And extroverts you may not believe this, but even though I have my introversion going on, when I’m I’m out and about amongst humankind I’m actually a pretty friendly and outgoing person. Minus an occasional sprinkling of awkwardness.
But, sometimes I don’t like small talk. I don’t want to be “nice”. And I think that’s okay. I can float around in public with basic politeness, but I don’t always have to be chatty (or smile!) if I don’t feel like it.
Now there’s a product (or two) out there that can help curb all those friendly or flirtatious folks that just can’t (or won’t) take the hint that you don’t want interaction.
Haha, oh I don’t know what I love more – the urn or the lower back spikes. Sure, sure, the commercial is a little crass – but I love it. I giggled for so long on the back spikes thing because it’s such a good point! I can’t stand when men walk past like that. “There’s never a reason to touch a woman’s back when walking past her. Like never.”
There’s a lot more I could say here, but I think I’ll save that for another day… But, what I will say is that I think almost everyone has had their boundaries of what’s “okay” and “not okay” challenged by another person just because that other person feels entitled to do so.
“Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.”
Maybe the other person doesn’t even know they’re doing something that makes you uncomfortable. Sometimes it should just be obvious, but other times we need to speak up. I know that I’ve had instances in my life where I’ve built up resentment and anger towards others and I didn’t even know why. When I really gave it some thought, I realized that they weren’t treating me the way I wanted to be treated. Sometimes they were straight up jerks and I didn’t realize it. Other times it was a misunderstanding or a change in the relationship.
Reflecting on your boundaries and deciding how you want your relationships to look/feel is important work. Boundaries can be one of the least favorite forms of self-care. They pull up a lot of uncomfortable emotions. But you pay for it with your health in the long-term if you don’t deal with what’s in the short-term.