A solid Self-Care Social Hour (SCSH) is like an old friend: relaxed and fun, yet honest. A social hour would tell you if you had a booger hanging out of your nose or if you were dating a dickhead. A social hour would hang out with you in sweats and watch cheesy movies as much as they would go on a road trip and see weird roadside attractions with you. A social hour would be with you when your heart or car was broken. They wouldn’t judge. They would listen, laugh or give advice. And they could sit in silence with you and it would be okay.
In short, social hours are good people and so are the people who come to them. I’m thinking of this lately because last week a small group of women and I got together for a SCSH retreat of sorts and it was a big reminder of why I love these events so much.
Here are my top 5 reasons why I love these events and think others should try them out:
5. I learn from others. Every single time I participate in a SCSH event I take a few new self-care ideas with me or I unearth a little bit more of why self-care is so hard for me or why it’s important. And I love learning about the people who attend, especially old friends who I think I know so well and then discover something new.
4. It’s down-to-earth/real/honest. A lot of people have told me that the event feels relaxed and easy. I’ve also heard that it allows people to open up and be honest. This is a relief to me because without this piece the event can’t really exist in a meaningful way. Putting people at ease and getting them comfortable allows greater ability to access parts of themselves that are uncomfortable to feel (i.e. the difficulties of self-care). This is a powerful part of the event.
3. It’s fun. Okay, okay, so from what you read above I want to say that this is a not a giant group therapy session (I’m totally down with therapy, but that is not what this is). These events are structured in a way that let people choose their level of sharing personal info. The activities are also designed to utilize humor and playfulness. That makes for a lot of laughter and a lot of listening. That in itself is a giant form of self-care for me.
2. It’s meaningful. All the goodness that I shared above usually makes for some meaningful talk. I’ve come to the realization that I crave this. It can be hard to do in our daily lives, especially in groups. Sometimes we don’t have the time, energy, or skill to make it work. Depending on the situation (work, family, etc.) having in-depth conversations can feel awkward or sometimes dangerous (hurt feelings with those close to us, risking retaliation at work, etc.). And beyond our daily lives, if you turn on the TV you can usually find people yelling and interrupting each other instead of having civil discourse. Creating spaces to talk honestly and with compassion is a revolutionary act in a society that screams.
1. It actually happens. It would be easy for these events to not happen. People are busy. Trying something new can be weird and awkward. And yet… people choose to come. People choose to participate in amazing ways. People choose to take care of their health. And to me, that’s inspiring.
C’mon let’s get inspired.
Challenge of the week: Make some time to have real talk with your friends or family about self-care or your health. Check out our resources and have fun!